Thursday, July 19, 2012

First Trimester!

I actually had a dream that I was pregnant before buying a pregnancy test the next day. I honestly never imagined actually seeing 2 lines on that test. I didn't wait and made an ultrasound appointment that week. To me, the dream was the first sign on how amazing pregnancy is, I feel as if my baby was telling me to knock off all my horrible habits. For the last 3 years I paid no attention to my own health smoking daily and drinking often so I was glad to have that intuition to get a test. I was 5 weeks pregnant but at the time I had not known that, I assumed I was at 7 or 8 weeks. At the appointment, there was no embryo present, not even a yolk sac. My doctor told me that I had a high chance of miscarriage within the next week and how I should prepare for that. One of the most irritating things about doctors is how everything they say; good news, or bad, sounds like they could care less anyhow. I cried the whole ride home. The following week I spent every day in bed, waiting, crying some more and goog-ling as many things I could to relate to what I was going through. The week past and I did not miscarry. I did self-diagnose myself with a blighted ovum and tried to prepare myself to not see anything going in.
 My boyfriend was nervous; he had grown more and more excited on being a dad. Surprisingly that day, I saw my little my baby and heard his heartbeat; I was in shock. The heartbeat is the first sign of reality, that there is another life inside me, that this is real. So at this point my baby just kept continuing to amaze me.
 So that was the beginning of my pregnancy, as if I was not already emotional enough raging with hormones I had a false diagnosis of an abnormal pregnancy. Now here I am at 12 weeks 3 days with a healthy perfect little baby. I had my second ultrasound this week on exactly 12 weeks. this time instead of just seeing a little peanut shape I actually saw my baby's feet legs and tiny button nose. He was doing flips, headstands, and rolling over. I couldn't tell if he was having fun or was that uncomfortable. At this point looking up at s/he I was about to cry again, I had never cried before because I was so happy. I created this baby, and I am already so in love with them. This was the point where it definitely made all of the horrible things worth it, and there are a lot of horrible things that come along with pregnancy.... it was the point where I realized that everything I was giving up, was worth it.
Okay the horrible things that come along with pregnancy. Honestly if I didn't know I was pregnant I would think I was dying. One, I do not look pregnant right now, just fat. I honestly want to wear a shirt saying, “I am not fat just pregnant.”
Two, during most of my first trimester, I did not get off my couch. The exhaustion for me was one of the worst things especially since I was not drinking any more Redbulls or caffeine (my other addiction) I think I went through some caffeine withdrawals. Thirdly, the nausea, I don't know if it was lucky for me, but I did not puke at all so far, but my body sure as hell wanted to. The nausea would get worse if I was not constantly eating! And then it was a cycle of nauseous because I am hungry, but then I can't eat because I am nauseous.
Now lastly I had a few things I really wanted to vent about, people who go on and on about how disgusting teen moms are. I am nineteen and pregnant and so sick of hearing judgmental comments toward teen moms when a person doesn’t even understand half of the things you have to do differently and sacrifice as soon as you find out you are going to be a mom. Becoming pregnant is a result of ones careless actions but a mother who keeps there child owns up to their decision which is admirable in my eyes. I was surprised at how many people had told me that I should get an abortion or they would or had got an abortion. I honestly do not care what someone chooses to do, it is just my own personal belief that, I got myself into this and I am not going to take an innocent life because of my actions. I mainly ask that if I do not judge you or push opinions upon you, please do the same. I actually know someone who got an abortion at seventeen and as soon as she found out that I am pregnant and keeping it, started posting degrading statuses toward teen moms and gloating on how she does not have a child through Facebook posts. Abortion must be a hard thing to go through, but I just don't understand how you can act like you never had a kid and look down upon others for making a different decision than you. Now I just got done with my first year at the University of Oregon with a full tuition scholarship. Sadly my sister even tries to make me feel bad and say no one thought that you would get pregnant, you were supposed to be the smart one in the family and made it to college...
 Even though it feels like I'm dying, I'm not. I am postponing my education to be closer to my family and boyfriend which is the most important thing right now. My intelligence and ambition will not go away, if anything I am only more motivated to be successful FOR my child. Becoming pregnant early is harder than when you’re older. You struggle, you have to figure out how to make ends meet and are forced to grow up right then and there, but I know that my child is worth it. People frown upon teen pregnancy, but any mom out there right now does not deserve to be looked down upon for doing the hardest job in the world. In making judgments upon others that only shows more ignorance and immaturity.


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